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Purple Roses’ Woe




  1. Tom Dilberger wrote:

    A few things here. I consider this thing with the coach a tempest in a teapot – a bunch of malarkey. Having said that, I also consider female competitive sports a bunch of malarkey. Girls shouldn’t be encouraged to take part in those type of things. They are by nature ill-suited for competition. Obviously, those ideas are not popular nowadays, but popularity isn’t important here. What is important is doing the right thing by young women.

    Saturday, December 16, 2017 at 10:19 am | Permalink
  2. Summer Timer wrote:

    #1…. What you said makes absolutely no sense at all. St Rose has one of the most storied girls basketball programs in the state. The girls gain a great life experience from participating in this program. They are also very dedicated, and work hard to attain the level of achievement year after year. You should go watch a game, it may change your opinion.

    Saturday, December 16, 2017 at 12:14 pm | Permalink
  3. eugene creamer wrote:

    It’s easy to confuse the NJSIAA with the Monmouth County Election Board …. they both flip-flop.

    Saturday, December 16, 2017 at 1:23 pm | Permalink
  4. Anonymous wrote:

    Gamblers caused this type of problem. Only hurts the athletes.

    Saturday, December 16, 2017 at 4:07 pm | Permalink
  5. Backward wrote:

    Comments like number 1 take away from the legitimacy of this blog. Thank you Mr. Dilberger for making our entire community look like a bunch of backward buffoons with one ignorant comment. By the way, look no further than the success the St. Rose girls have had that the boys have not had since Bob Verga.

    Saturday, December 16, 2017 at 8:34 pm | Permalink
  6. Tom Dilberger wrote:

    #5 – Sir/Madam, you give me too much credit. I only stated my opinion. I doubt many people think people reading the comments on this site think I represent the thinking of the majority of people in the town. Even if they do, it makes no difference. People are entitled to their own opinion, even if they’re wrong.
    You bring up another point. This concept going around that girls are in competition with boys, This can never be. The female mission in life is entirely different than the male. There can never be competition between the two. Only inter-dependent action. An idea of competition between the two will, can only lead to disaster.

    Sunday, December 17, 2017 at 5:14 am | Permalink
  7. Summer Timer wrote:

    #6… Time has obviously passed you by, making your opinion irrelevant in todays world.

    Sunday, December 17, 2017 at 7:35 am | Permalink
  8. Tom Dilberger wrote:

    #7 – That’s fine, but no matter how “irrelevant,” my opinion may be, I believe it to be correct. I’m sure you stand by my right to my opinion as I to your right, no matter how mistaken your opinion may be.

    Sunday, December 17, 2017 at 9:04 am | Permalink
  9. Eugene Creamer wrote:

    #7 …. Agree …. times have changed …. especially with the butch population increase.

    Sunday, December 17, 2017 at 9:52 am | Permalink
  10. Disgust/Disappoint wrote:

    The sexist (Dilbert) and bigoted (Creamer)comments are shocking. You small minded boys should be ashamed. But, probably not smart enough to be. (Sounds like cases of “never got over small hands” and feel threatened.)

    Monday, December 18, 2017 at 8:09 am | Permalink
  11. Eugene Creamer wrote:

    #10 …. I’m sorry you interpreted my comment as bigotry …. I was trying to acknowledge a growing segment of the population that I support.
    Real bigotry is intolerance toward those who hold different opinions from oneself.

    Monday, December 18, 2017 at 9:30 am | Permalink
  12. Tom Dilberger wrote:

    #10- I don’t speak for Gene of course, but at this point I am what I am and am well satisfied with my thoughts and feelings. Don’t look for me to change. You are right on the smarts point about me though. I was never thought to be the smartest person around – Just an old Marine and Ironworker.

    Monday, December 18, 2017 at 11:18 am | Permalink
  13. MM wrote:

    This is at the very least a generational thing, as Mr. Dilberger and Mr. Creamer are from an older generation than I, but it is the mindset that leads to things like Matt Lauer, Harvey Wienstein, and the like. A mindset that is hopefully changing in this country, and lucky for us girls, a generation that is on it’s way out of the workforce!

    Monday, December 18, 2017 at 11:30 am | Permalink
  14. watchman wrote:

    “Real bigotry is intolerance toward those who hold different opinions from oneself.”

    ageism – prejudice or discrimination on the basis of a person’s age.

    Monday, December 18, 2017 at 12:07 pm | Permalink
  15. Eugene Creamer wrote:

    #13 …. Yep! …. I’m old and in the way …. I was one of only a few Belmar voters that sent Christine Todd Whitman to Trenton in 1993.

    Monday, December 18, 2017 at 12:31 pm | Permalink
  16. Tom Dilberger wrote:

    MM – With all due respect, you’re the victim of a gigantic con-job. All people should stay within the bounds of their nature. Once men and women move into spheres beyond their natural abilities, as they are now, disaster must follow.

    Monday, December 18, 2017 at 4:25 pm | Permalink
  17. Aileen Fahy wrote:

    Bobby Riggs believed that, until…

    Monday, December 18, 2017 at 6:02 pm | Permalink
  18. Summer Timer wrote:

    #16….Get in the ring with a female MMA fighter, then talk to me about natural abilities. You would not last a 5 minute round.

    Monday, December 18, 2017 at 6:29 pm | Permalink
  19. ms.nobody wrote:

    #13 Big feminist blunder – use of the word “girls” for women.

    Monday, December 18, 2017 at 7:06 pm | Permalink
  20. OLD MAN wrote:

    #17,18…………..Please leave those two guys alone. Just expressing their opinions

    Monday, December 18, 2017 at 7:10 pm | Permalink
  21. Anonymous wrote:

    Change the gender labels for school aged athletes, please. No more girls or boys listings. Female and Male could be less offensive.

    Monday, December 18, 2017 at 9:05 pm | Permalink
  22. Tom Dilberger wrote:

    #s 17&18 – You two might win some sort of prize on this website for those posts – Lord help us all…

    Tuesday, December 19, 2017 at 5:08 am | Permalink
  23. #9/#11 wrote:

    Gene, I have always thought you are terrific, but the language of your comment #9 is like using the “N’ word and then saying you are not a racist.

    Tuesday, December 19, 2017 at 7:34 am | Permalink
  24. watchman wrote:

    We all should watch our words. They are loaded with meanings that others may find objectionable and the user could be unaware of implications. Stirring up controversy on purpose is another matter. All food for thought before labeling someone bigot or racist.

    Tuesday, December 19, 2017 at 9:38 am | Permalink
  25. Eugene Creamer wrote:

    #23 …. YES! …. I do realize my choice of words could have been better …. Before the comment, I did look-up ‘butch’ in Websters and found “notably or deliberately masculine in appearance or manner” and thought it appropriate for the drift of the thread …. I didn’t consider the current ‘butch’ slang definition…
    Today, there are more females with short hair, or wear Levi blue jeans, than ever before and that was my focus …. all great with me …. except for the language that would make an ironworker blush.

    Tuesday, December 19, 2017 at 1:55 pm | Permalink
  26. boy named sue wrote:

    Hooray for masculine-appearing females, I love ’em. I am not at all threatened. Perception is everything.

    Tuesday, December 19, 2017 at 3:38 pm | Permalink
  27. Tom Dilberger wrote:

    My view remains unchanged. The girls are being misled by this focus on competitive sports. Girls/young women and boys/young men are being taught in effect, wrong is right and right is wrong. Not just in the area of sports, but overall. This is why that so many young people are not doing well. The entire key to life I believe is usefulness. We’re pushing our young people towards uselessness on a broad front in life. Then we stand around and act as if we’re surprised when the young person does something incredibly stupid. All the time it’s the adults who are to blame for it. For too long I stood by mesmerized by what I was observing and thought our leadership couldn’t be wrong, after all, they were smart people. Then it finally dawned on me, yeah, they’re smart alright but when you looked more closely at these people in leadership positions, you saw that they’re mostly inexperienced people who’ve made their way in life by the spoken/written word – inexperienced people. So now, I will remain silent no more. When I see something I don’t like, I say something. For those who disagree with me, just look at it this way, as it’s been said here, I’m irrelevant and old. That’s fine, just ignore what I say.

    Wednesday, December 20, 2017 at 5:25 am | Permalink
  28. Tom Dilberger wrote:

    Best Bluegrass Clog Dancing Video Ever Made – YouTube

    Video for Best Bluegrass Clog Dancing Video Ever Made 6:16

    Jan 14, 2017 – Uploaded by annette hollander
    Up next. Clog Dancing On The Porch. Bluegrass Dancing – Historic Documentary. Clogging – Mountain Folk …

    I think this video shows a bit of what I mean. Look at these young people, cleared eyed and not confused as to their station in life. Thin, but not like waifs. Used to work, but also knew good fun. The were guided in their every move by elders who cared/ loved them. The love was not showy like we see today. It was shown in a thousand meaningful ways. Correcting when needed and the young person was thankful when corrected and shown the right way of doing something rather than resentful as we see today. Anyway, enjoys this video. Enough from me today.

    Wednesday, December 20, 2017 at 7:36 am | Permalink
  29. elemental wrote:

    Thanks, Mr. Dilberger, I am a fan of your comments and think you represent wisdom most of the time. The rest of the time, I wonder if you are pulling our legs, but so what, a good pull is fine. If not, so what, you spoke and that is what counts.

    Wednesday, December 20, 2017 at 10:03 am | Permalink
  30. Summer Timer wrote:

    Can you say sdrawkcab…..

    Wednesday, December 20, 2017 at 6:12 pm | Permalink

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